I Can Do It Manage My Feelings Kit


Often when Tom was crying,  I did not know why.

Was he in pain, sad, anxious, overwhelmed or may be hungry? He struggled to find the words to tell me why he was crying and this made him angry and frustrated. I felt terrible. How could I help him if I didn’t know why he was upset?

These experiences showed me that Tom needed a simple nonverbal way to communicate his immediate needs and feelings with us and others.

Tom was already using a visual schedule for home routines, so we knew he found it easier to understand pictures rather than spoken words. We started using visuals to help Tom learn how to recognise his emotions and share his feelings. Showing him faces displaying different emotions, parts of the body, body signs such as feeling too hot or too cold, hungry or tired and common sensory triggers for example, the surroundings being too bright or noisy.

When Tom could identify his emotions, he was able to show us by using the visuals how he was feeling. We now understood his behaviour, and this meant we could help him and also show him how he could help himself feel better.  This led to a reduction in his anger and frustration as he felt understood and validated. Knowing he had the skills to cope with his feelings made him more relaxed and content.

We created this kit to help children of all abilities learn emotional regulation skills and remind them how to find calm in times of fear, worry or frustration.

With this kit you can quickly and easily create personalised prompts and reminders to help your child identify their emotions, communicate their immediate personal needs and develop self-help strategies so like Tom, your child can say ‘I can manage my feelings’ too!

Key benefits

  • Identifying your child’s sensory overloads helps reduce their anxiety and meltdowns
  • Enabling your child to communicate in a non-verbal way their aches and pains
  • Helping your child understand and identify their emotions and key stress triggers develops their emotional self-management skills and leads to improvements in their behaviour
  • Encouraging your child’s feedback on tasks, activities or events gives you insight to changes in their focus or behaviour
  • Creating individualised reminders of coping and calming strategies helps your child manage their difficult emotions and feelings
  • Portable and discreet – perfect for home, school, going out and many other settings

Kit contents

    • 6 TomTag Button Holders
    • 40 blank buttons to give you the flexibility to create multiple prompts and reminders
    • 1 attachment loop to fasten your TomTag to a hook, belt or bag
    • Easy to follow instruction sheet to assemble your TomTag
    • Feelings & Emotions sticker pack which contains
      • 72 different symbol stickers (2 copies of each) for
      • I feel: I feel, embarrassed, worried, calm, scared, tired, cross, happy, sad, upset, hungry, thirsty, excited, uncomfortable, good feeling, bad feeling
      • It hurts:feel unwell, tummy ache, toothache, earache, headache, sore nose, sore throat, vomit, sick, pain in eye
      • I think:too bright, too crowded, too hot, too cold, too smelly, too loud, too difficult, too itchy, don’t understand, don’t know, understand, why, when, yes, no, sorry
      • I need: I need, yoga, exercise, move, stretch, squeeze fingers, blow, deep breathe, play alone, get a hug, hug myself, chew, suck, leave me alone, listen to music, headphones, write it down, sensory time, count to 10, read, think nice thoughts, quiet place, weighted blanket, swing, relax, teddy, computer/tablet, fidget toy, favourite thing
    • 12 blank round stickers for personalisation
    • 8 blank rectangular stickers to label your TomTag Button Holders

Discounted offer

Add the  I can do it share how I feel mini kit tag for £3.00 ( use the drop down box below to add this tag)  

Click the gallery to view the symbol images


  • TomTag Button Holder:18cm x 3cm
  • Buttons: 2cm diameter

The TomTag I Can Do It Range

The TomTag I Can Do It range was originally designed by a mum to help her autistic son, Tom. With this range, it’s quick and easy to make personalised visual timelines, reminders, checklists and prompts which can be used anywhere in the home, at school, in care settings or when out and about.

TomTag visual supports can provide structure and guidance to help children and young people make sense of, remember, and master the steps involved in learning key skills to manage their daily lives.

TomTag is easy to clean and keep hygienic. TomTag’s plastic button holders and blank buttons can be washed in warm water and a little hand soap should they become dirty and dried with a soft cloth. The stickers are highly water resistant. Simply wipe over with a wet cloth or anti-bacterial wipe.

How does TomTag work?

TomTag uses symbols to show a series of separate tasks or steps involved in a task that are part of a routine, sequence of events in a timeline or they can be used as a list to teach a new skill by breaking down a single activity into smaller steps.

Many children with autism and other additional needs have strong visual skills. They are more likely to remember and understand what they have seen rather than what they hear. Using a visual support like TomTag to present information visually and in a step-by-step manner allows visual thinkers and learners to take in information at their own pace. Visuals can act as a reminder when children forget what’s been said or become distracted. TomTag helps to bring their attention back to the task or current situation.

Our customers say

“We needed to call an ambulance this weekend for our daughter and her TomTags meant she was able to communicate with the ambulance crew. In fact the paramedics were so impressed they made a note of them and they said they were going to have a look at what sets were available!”

“These strips are our “I am struggling”, “cooling down” and “expected behaviour” strips. He uses these when verbal communication fails him” 

WARNING: Please note – TomTag is not a toy. Not suitable for children under 36 months due to small parts.

Symbol images produced under licence from Widgit Symbols (C) Widgit Software 2002-2022 www.widgit.com. All other images (C) Orkid Ideas Limited 2022




Additional information

Kit type

standard kit, plus Share how I feel minikit tag

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